Get together today…..
I know already I just feel it, I am going to blow it! Today is my husbands family holiday get together. Long story, but my mother in law was in the hospital over the holidays so it was postponed until today! She has a lot of mental health issues and has long before I met my husband! Long story made short, every year or so she feels like she no longer needs to take her medicine that she needs and stop taking it! She ends up in the hospital and gets her son’s and husband to bend over back words and cater to her every whim. I don’t mean to sound cold, but I have lived with this for almost 29 years. She has never really liked me and has done really nasty things to me over the years and it took my husband many years to realize it was not me that she does a lot of things for attention. I am the bad daughter in law, I am the only one who does not cater to her. I treat her decent but I don’t go out of my way to kiss her butt, therefore I am not a good person in her eyes. I have even been accuse by her of turning her grandchildren against her, needless to say she did this herself. My son’s are 17, 22, and 26 they see it for themselves and have not really turned against her, but distance themselves from her.
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Today will be hard as I have to be on my best behavior and keep my mouth shut, that is the hard part, as so often I speak without thinking.
I am an emotional eater and I know I will blow it big time, but then tomorrow will be a new day and back on track.
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Wish me luck, I really need it today!
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Have a great day buddies!
I know where you’re coming from. My mother-in-law isn’t on any meds, but when Micheal and I first met, she and I got along great. But after we told her we were getting married, she did a flip-flop! And she was extremely hateful to me for quite a while. Even her brother, sister & dad would tell her she needed to back off! But finally Micheal told her she was forcing him to decide between her and me and his decision was me, so if she didn’t like it, she would be out of his life forever! It didn’t take her too long before she changed her attitude! Now she calls me her daughter!!
Try to just keep your distance from her, and spend time with everyone else. That should save your sanity. As for saving your diet…find something to keep you away from the food!!!
Good luck!
Well, if you do blow it, try not to be too hard on yourself and just get right back on. That is the hardest part for me, is forgiving myself. But just remember how far you have come, and know that one day won’t make or break it.
Good Luck Bette Jo!! I’m blessed with a wonderful mother in-law. But she on the other hand has one just like yours!!!
It took me many years to see this myself but my mother inlaw always told me about her and I thought everyone was just being hard on her. I always like to see the best in people.
I hope you get through the occasion with your chin up.
Big HUg!
Tammy
Best of luck for today my dear friend, you seem to be like me talk now think later….
I know how stressful the in-laws can be. Try not to get too worked up. I hope everything turns out ok.
I hope all went well for you BJ. I totally blew my weekend too but I am good with it, I am back on today. Take care and good luck with today
