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all afternoon! I think my main problem with it all is that how much it affects my hubby! It really hurts him and I am like a mother bear with her cubs when it comes to him as much as I am with my kids and grandkids! We hardly ever talk about her because he can’t understand why I can’t forgive her. I forgave a lot for years and I just got to the point where I can’t do it anymore! I have distanced myself for years and more and more in the past few. In my mother in laws eyes I could never do anything right from the begining, from cleaning my house to raising my kids. In the begining I would bite my tongue and be hurt and cry about it later, then I began to fight back and she did not like that. She got nastier and ruder because she knew she was getting under my skin, so now I spend as little time as possible with her and hubby does now too, because he can’t understand why she is like that. My kids don’t visit her much either because she is so nosey about every aspect of their lives and gives them unasked for advice on everything. My youngest granddaughter who is almost 19 months old and will go to almost anybody won’t get within 6 foot of her. I think I need to work on being able to forgive her, but still keep my distance.

Thank you buddies for all of your great advice!

Well my diet is going okay and I have been using the Ab lounger every other day!

Hope everyone is having a good night!

I made it through the party without to much over indulgence!

I feel pretty crappy though! My mother in law does not seem to be doing to well! She is only 69 and is in worse shape than my mother at 81! She has to have help getting up and is using a walker and my father in law follows around behind her with a chair! I think she seems over medicated, but I just still can’t have the compassion I should have for her! I have seen her do things to many times just for people to feel sorry for her! One day we were all camping  she actually threw herself on the ground and said she fell! I saw her do it and I was the only one who did not go running when it happened. She has twisted and turned conversations I have had with her around to try to make me look bad. A couple years ago when it was time for the family Christmas party I told her I did not know if my kids were going she jumped up and started screaming at me that my husband had told her they were coming and they were coming and to stop turning her grandchildren against her! I just looked at her and said, you are doing that yourself and if they don’t want to come they are big enough to make that decision themselves! She stormed out of my house calling me a f—–g b—h and she couldn’t see how her son could stay married to me! My then future daughter in law was here at the time and just stood there with her mouth hanging open! She went home and told my father in law that I had started and arguement with her! When hubby got home he called his dad who said it was all me and that his mother would not lie about that! They did not come around for weeks which was okay by me, but hurt my hubby as it was his parents! Then all of a sudden they started coming around and I have never recieved and apology! From that day forward I lost all respect for my mother in law and most of the respect for my father in law! I realize it is his wife and he doesn’t want to see it or accept it! I wish in my heart I could work up some compassion, because no matter what she has done to me, she is my husbands mother! I have two daughter in laws, like I love like my own daughters and I have told them to shoot me if I ever act like that! I am there for them if they need me and we have mutual respect for each other. If there is one thing I have learned from the mother in law of mine is not to be like her!

Well once again I have vented to all my good buddies! It feels so good to be able to get it off my chest! If I was not here on buddy slim right now I would probably be doing some emotional eating!

Have a good day my friends!