I have thought about this

Posted January 22, 2007
File under: Weight Loss

all afternoon! I think my main problem with it all is that how much it affects my hubby! It really hurts him and I am like a mother bear with her cubs when it comes to him as much as I am with my kids and grandkids! We hardly ever talk about her because he can’t understand why I can’t forgive her. I forgave a lot for years and I just got to the point where I can’t do it anymore! I have distanced myself for years and more and more in the past few. In my mother in laws eyes I could never do anything right from the begining, from cleaning my house to raising my kids. In the begining I would bite my tongue and be hurt and cry about it later, then I began to fight back and she did not like that. She got nastier and ruder because she knew she was getting under my skin, so now I spend as little time as possible with her and hubby does now too, because he can’t understand why she is like that. My kids don’t visit her much either because she is so nosey about every aspect of their lives and gives them unasked for advice on everything. My youngest granddaughter who is almost 19 months old and will go to almost anybody won’t get within 6 foot of her. I think I need to work on being able to forgive her, but still keep my distance.

Thank you buddies for all of your great advice!

Well my diet is going okay and I have been using the Ab lounger every other day!

Hope everyone is having a good night!

4 Comments so far

Mary @ January 22nd, 2007

I hope you can figure out how to resolve or come to terms with the mother-in-law issue. I do know how you feel.
Michele @ January 23rd, 2007

Well, I am going to give you just a little bit of advice that has helped me with people like that throughout the years. You don’t have to forgive her you only have to accept that that is the way she is. You know this is her personality and she is much to old to change now. So accepting her is probably your only option. I myself would also have to feel a bit sorry for her because it cannot be fun to live like that. Good luck to you girl! Just be thankful you dont have to live with her lol
Kim @ January 24th, 2007

Childen have good instincts thats for sure! I think Michele offered some great advice though, hang in there, I know your doing the best you can!
Connie @ January 24th, 2007

I speak from experience, and am telling you not to cut her out of your life. I know that your hurt and it’s hard, but deal with her the best you can for your husband. She is his mother and that does count for something. Pray and ask God to give you His strength and wisdom concering her. Pray for her. Determine that she will not and can not get under your skin. Only show her love no matter what. You will be helping her more than you know, and you won’t be letting her mood and anger affect you. Remember not to give her that power. Only you can make you feel bad, about something she has done or said. It depends upon how you take it. Like I said, I have cut certain family out of my life from 3-13 years. It’s not worth it. I can proudly say that today all is healed and I don’t have anyone that I am cutting out of my life, and know what? I am the happier for it!