Just to let you know
I made it through the party without to much over indulgence!
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I feel pretty crappy though! My mother in law does not seem to be doing to well! She is only 69 and is in worse shape than my mother at 81! She has to have help getting up and is using a walker and my father in law follows around behind her with a chair! I think she seems over medicated, but I just still can’t have the compassion I should have for her! I have seen her do things to many times just for people to feel sorry for her! One day we were all camping she actually threw herself on the ground and said she fell! I saw her do it and I was the only one who did not go running when it happened. She has twisted and turned conversations I have had with her around to try to make me look bad. A couple years ago when it was time for the family Christmas party I told her I did not know if my kids were going she jumped up and started screaming at me that my husband had told her they were coming and they were coming and to stop turning her grandchildren against her! I just looked at her and said, you are doing that yourself and if they don’t want to come they are big enough to make that decision themselves! She stormed out of my house calling me a f—–g b—h and she couldn’t see how her son could stay married to me! My then future daughter in law was here at the time and just stood there with her mouth hanging open! She went home and told my father in law that I had started and arguement with her! When hubby got home he called his dad who said it was all me and that his mother would not lie about that! They did not come around for weeks which was okay by me, but hurt my hubby as it was his parents! Then all of a sudden they started coming around and I have never recieved and apology! From that day forward I lost all respect for my mother in law and most of the respect for my father in law! I realize it is his wife and he doesn’t want to see it or accept it! I wish in my heart I could work up some compassion, because no matter what she has done to me, she is my husbands mother! I have two daughter in laws, like I love like my own daughters and I have told them to shoot me if I ever act like that! I am there for them if they need me and we have mutual respect for each other. If there is one thing I have learned from the mother in law of mine is not to be like her!
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Well once again I have vented to all my good buddies! It feels so good to be able to get it off my chest! If I was not here on buddy slim right now I would probably be doing some emotional eating!
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Have a good day my friends!
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I\’ve been exposed to ex-family members like that too hun! It\’s crazy! As hard as it is to bite your tongue at times just remember she will create her own destiny and you have to create yours. Some people need a high dose of attention and they get it by any means they can. Just continue to be yourself and a good person, those around you that know you will see that and the ones that don\’t aren\’t paying attention!![](\"http://www.buddyslim.com/img/smileys/10.gif\")
Have a good week! Laura
I think the best you can do is just keep the contact to a minimum! That’s what I did with my mother-in-law. And my husband kept his distance, too. When she finally realized that treating me like dirt was going to cause her to lose her son, she changed her attitude. She has 4 sons, but Micheal is the only one she has ever been able to count on when she needed something, and she was afraid I was taking him away from her. What she ended up doing was push him away herself! But now, I couldn’t ask for a better mother-in-law. She treats me like a daughter, and not just to keep on Micheal’s good side.
Mothers are funny when it comes to their kids, especially their sons.
But some people will do anything for attention.
Keep your chin up, and keep in mind that it’s her problem and you don’t have to live with her, just put up with her once in a while.
Man! Talk about the mother in law from hell, huh?? WOW…
Reading that was like watching a soap opera!
I guess all you can do is rise above it!
Take care!
Dawn
Bah, I hate family like that. It’s so hard to not stress out over people like that. I agree with Mary, keep yourself distanced and keep in mind that the woman has a problem. I feel bad for your husband that his mom is like that, it must be really hard on him also. I hope she comes around and realizes what harm she’s doing to herself by treating you so badly.
Well I am glad you made it through that without falling off the wagon. That would have to be tough to be around all that stress. Hopefully you wont have to do that again for a while.
My mother-in-law gets to me like something awful as well. But at least I live 6 hours away from her. I couldn’t imagine being that close to her like you are. Try to hang in there. And don’t take no s***