Not sure what to expect……
My hubby tells me last night, how proud he is of me and the weight loss I have accomplished. He also tells me that starting this weeken he is going to join me on this weigh loss journey. Let me tell you while this makes me happy, it also a little nerve racking! This is not the first time he has told me that since I began this journey over a year ago! His first attempt he lost 12 lbs. rather quickly! He is a junk food junkie, and he mainly just eliminated his Little Debbies and sodas and chips! Slowly all of these things creeped back into our home and he put that weight right back on! His last attempt lasted a week and he actully got quite grouchy with me and told me if I wanted to be a Health Nut, go right ahead, but I was never to tell him what he was going to eat again, that he would eat what he wanted, when he wanted! I was like okay, then I will never help you again! We had a good talk about how this is going to work this time! I told him I don’t expect him to eat things I do that he does not like, and I will make him healthier lunches for work! I told him that if I am going to do this for him I expect that he eats what I pack and not eat junk from the vending machines! There are also a couple co-workers who bake cookies and other treats all the time and bring them in! Not a problem as long as they start leaving them in the break room! The problem is they like to leave them on his desk! He is the dispatcher at his job and when the drivers come in they walk past his desk, and the bakers leave the goodies there! I told him the next time they do just ask them niceley to please leave the goodies in the break-room, out of site out of mind! He worries that he does not have the will power, I told him it is not easy, but look what I have done! I told him, I will help any way I can, but don’t get angry with me like you have in the past! I told him, I am doing this to not only look better, but to be healthier and I want us to be healthier together! I really hope it works this time!
I have been sticking to plan so well, that I almost amaze myself! What I need to do is motivate myself for more excercise! I am hoping that with the two of us doing this together we can motivate each other!
I hope all of my buddies are Kicking Butt this week!
Have a good one!
Good Morning:
You were right to talk things over first, and set the ground rules. That makes for a much better start. I see you have done a wonderful job so far, and isn’t it a great feeling each time that you reach a number that is in your head, that you thought you would never see again. I started out at 249 and thought I wwould never see 220 again, then when I hit that, 214 was the next number, and now I can’t wait for the 209, and there just comes a point where you know you will never go back again. and that is where I am. And I don’t know what I would do if I couln’t get to the gym every day. yes I do, I gained 7 pounds back and it took me another week to get back to 211, but I did it. Keep up the wonderful work you are doing, it really is a life changing event in our lives. Have a great day.—Mary
I have the same problem with my husband. He will run in spurts of wanting to something good for himself. My husband works in the kitchen of a jail and constantly has access to “Bad ” foods . Sometimes all I can do is step back and be his cheerleader and let him do what he’s going to do . I support him when he embarks upon these journeys and even when he ’s not . It sounds like he needs his cheerleader or handholding whatever you want to call it . Just remind him if he gets snipppy with you that you are just supporting his efforts and all that he conveyed to you ! GOOD LUCK !
There are articles out there in cyberworld about the fact that men will loose weight faster than woman. If I ever come across one I will send it to you. My honey too decided to join me almost 2 years ago. He idea was joining the gym which was great I love going there. I let him eat whatever he wants without nagging but do make suggestions and let him choose what he wants. He has traded ice cream for no sugar added sherbert but still needs to cut the portion size down more. When we first joined the gym he was loosing fast but of course with my better eating habits and work out habits I eventuall started loosing faster than him and showing more results in my shrinking measurements which made him decided he needed to kick things up and now he’s seeing results which is motivating him more. Good luck with hubby. I don’t know which are harder to deal with - kids or hubby’s.
I’m gonna play the devil’s advocate here. Don’t set yourself up for a big upset. You know what has happened in the past and the chances are it will happen again…hopefully not, but just be prepared.