Can my life getting any more confusing…….??
I just got off the phone with my 18 year old son. The one who just moved out! He had some wonderful (not really) news! He just told me his g/f is pregnant. Yup she is also only 18! Babies having babies!!! I am so disappointed in them. I just had a talk with them recently about this. I had heard a rumor she was pregnant so I confronted them and they denied it. I let them know what I thought about them having a baby. They have only been dating since summer! They haven’t a clue to what their lives have in store for them now! I don’t even know if my hubby knows yet! He is calling me this morning, I don’t know if I should tell him if he doesn’t know or wait until he gets home from work. I guess I will just have to wait and see if HIS son called him at work and told him!
I am really having a very hard time getting back on track. I have come to the conclusion that I am just going to work really extra hard to get through the Holidays and take things as they come!
I hope everyone is having a great week!
I am glad to know that I am not the only one with grown children who can’t keep their lives together!! I have been right where you are, girl friend!! You have my prayers and my support. Just hang in there–you can make it!!!!
Rhonda
That is hard to accept. But they decided they what they wanted when they defined their relationship (if you know what I mean). Unfortunately too many people have the “it wont happen to me mentality”…good luck grandma
I can totally understand, I went through the same thing with my daughter. She was pregnant with Josh before she graduated high school and had him 5 months after she graduated. She was in a bad relationship to begin with, they broke up, she moved to Florida briefly, moved back and got back together and had Jaime less than a month after Josh turned 1. They broke up again. Now, she is luckily out of that abusive relationship and is married to a wonderful guy who has accepted the two kids as his own and wants to adopt them. They know him as “daddy”. My prayers will be with them and you.
It will be okay ! God has a strange way of working things out even when it doesn’t look good ! As for falling off the wagon and trying to get back on is hard ! I know I have been struggling the whole weekend over it ! I decided to push on ! You can do it too ! Good Luck ! Kimmi
Things are so much different now than when I was younger. There are so many younger age parents anymore which is sad. We can only hope that the baby is loved and taken care of properly. They choose to be parents, so there responsibilties came early and the fun days are over, before they began. We know raising a little one is hard. You will be OK and you will get back on track.
It will work out. Sometimes our kids drive us to drink (or eat) in our case. I don’t think they realise the years of hard work ahead. I had my children when I was VERY young. That’s why at 71 I have these OLD kids. I missed a lot of my youth but which one would you give up? Hang in there, babe. Love, Marge
I’ll keep my family in my prayers. I can understand why you feel that way. I hope things get better.
Well, I’m on the other end of this. I was the baby having a baby, and my mom and dad almost died when I told them. I was only 16 when I got pregnant and had my son at 17.
I know I caused alot of heartache, stress and worry for them. But hey, I turned out just fine. I raised my baby myself, finished high school, went to college, became a nurse, married a wonderful loving man, and have a beautiful life. I didn’t get all this as easy as others who didn’t have children. But I still got everything I wanted in life, it just took more work from me and a little more time.
Yes they are too young to have a baby, way too young. But it sure is not the end of the world. Everything will work out just fine. Good luck and take care.
Well, you know, it is what it is and you had your say to them and now they need all kinds of positive emotional support. Do your best to put on a happy face about the whole thing because if anyone is more worried than you, it’s them. What’s done is done. I just joined a new mommy group locally and I was talking to two young 20 year olds about how they had to get married and how awful everyone made them feel. It’s memories they will always have forever about how they were made to feel like they made a “mistake” and they just may pass those feelings on to their new babies. Just put on your best face. Their relationship may or may not last but you know, life doesn’t have to end here or be bleek. Even if they don’t last, they could still both find happiness with other people later. People do it all the time. Do your best to show them support the best way possible. This could actually work out and they could actually have very fullfilling lives. There are some people who wait to get married and wait to have children and end up being lousy parents or bad spouses to each other. Anything can happen with this young couple. With some good emotional support, they can do anything. What’s done is done so might as well enjoy the blessing. Good luck to you and your family.
Let me tell you a story. When I was 17 years old I met Al. We started dating Febuary of 91 and we got married in May of 91. That’s the entire length of time we knew each other. I had our first child in December of 91 and had our second child in Jan of 93.
We are now going on 17 years of marriage. Think back to our great grandparents they got married sometimes at 14 years old and they stayed married well over 50 years. It’s something that can work out.
As a mom myself I recommend sitting them down and explaining that a child is a life long commitment. Remind them that from now on their child is their top priority. That marriage is a life long commitment and that you don’t just divorce because something is hard or someone made you mad.
You can’t stress over this. He was your little boy but he is now a man and it’s HIS job to make his decisions. You did your job you raised him. Now you can only be a watcher. Sit back if he needs you help give him the best advice you have and send him on his way. He must step up now.
Live your life and let him live his. If he falls, remind him it’s just one of many life lessons and let him get back up and try again.
Good luck to you!