Spinning out of control!!
I feel like everything in my life is spinning out of control right now. Working on ME seems like the only thing I can control in my life right now!
This has not been a good week for me emotionally. Ever since the new company (where hubby and I both work) took over hubby has been under a lot more pressure. He has a lot of new responsibilities. He is coming home with a lot more on his mind than he use too. He has started to become more critical of everything I do or don’t do. Take last night for example. He came home and one of the first things he said to me was he was tired of things not getting done around here the way they use too! Well you know what I am not the only person that lives here. If he wants things done he should help. We also have the laziest 19 year old son you would ever want to meet. I am tired of coming home inbetween my runs and doing everything here. I am tired of making dinner everynight and cleaning up afterwards while those 2 sit around watching tv or playing on the computer. I am tired of always being so tired I go to bed at 8 O’ clock most nights. I am tired of my husband trying to sabatoge my weight loss efforts. Last night we had something to do before dinner and hubby said why don’t we stop and get some take out and I said No I will just go home and get dinner, but you can get yourself take out if you want. He was like No you will never do anything with me anymore. I do things with him, but he just doesn’t get it, and I don’t think he ever will. The other night I was examing myself and the flab I have that has become a loose and worrying it will never tighten up. What does hubby say?? ” I love your cellulite “!! I burst into tears! Can you believe he didn’t realize this was the wrong thing to say!
I am going to do this, despite everything else I have going on. It hurts that he is just not getting it. Yes, I want to look better it is only natural, but I want to be healthier too! I want to be able to keep up with my grandkids and enjoy life. I want to feel better about myself and gain more self confidence!
I am glad I have buddy slim and all of my buddies here that give me that support and motivation I need!
I am and I will do this no matter what!
I hope everyone is having a great week!
Hey…hey….Sounds like you’re having a rough time of it at the minute. All that stress from others and what’s put on you must be wearing you thin.
You know what….you’re 19 year old son, if he’s still living at home, really should have a list of chores to do every day just to help you out. You’ve got so much on your plate, it’s the least he can do. Sure my little sister at home’s only 10, and she does the washing up and drying up for Mom..and the dusting…and brings her the occasional tea and biscuit in bed in the morning. Have a word with him….even just one or two jobs around the house will help you out so much.
As for your husband…maybe take a night out once a week or every two weeks, where the 2 of ye make an effort to spend even just an hour together away from every stress. Go out for a walk, or kick everyone out of the sitting room so ye can sit down and have a cuddle for a while…doing stuff together doesnt have to happen around food.
But 1st and foremost, look after yourself. If you’re not healthy and happy, how can the rest of your family be? You’re the glue in this for them. You have to look after yourself.
Hope things look up for you soon
Smile - today is a new day!
Also - there is such a thing as a Mom Strike! I did this in my home on a “gentle” type of way. I felt very taken advantage of and like my family wasn’t appreciating me as much anymore. Wow - just 2 days of Mom not doing anything that I normally did and that was a big eye opener for my husband and kids! I even receive the 2 “magic” words now that I wanted to hear from my husband - just because - “Thank You” is what I was after and I got it!
Sounds like you definately have alot on your plate right now.
If nobody is going to help you, you have to ask yourself what is the most important thing to do out of the housework? Break it down that way. If you are doing it yourself, do a room a day. If nobody likes it, then hand them the broom or the mop and bucket and inform them that you work full time and would like to relax like everyone else does. If things are not getting done timely enough for them, they should help, if not be quiet.
You should not have to do it alone….you aren’t the only one that lives there.
wow…girl. we all have so much going on these days..huh? yes your son does need to be helping out…and well, i dont believe that you can make your hubby…but, maybe you could make him want too…reverse psychology sorta..? have you ever heard of the power of a praying wife by stormie o’martian? its great…might help…i better run….hope things get better for you …keep in touch with your heartbreaker family …we are here for you..
Boy do I know your pain.
I do a few suggestions.
1st, Make a list of everything you do during the day. Then when you sense your husband is in a reasonable mood..hand him the list and ask him to make up one of his own. Undoubtably your list will be longer then his. When he sees things in black and white he will understand them alot better. Men are just wired that way. They are alot better with what they can see as opposed to the what they are told. Then proceed to remove things from your list and create a list for your son.
As for dinner out with the hubby. Why not say yes…so many restaurants have “light” dishes these days and how about asking him to go for a stroll with you afterwards. He gets dinner with you and you get to exercise that meal off with a romantic walk with the man you love.
And as for what men say or don’t say…They will never understand us..be honest..sometimes we don’t even understand ourselves…lol :)! Just try to remember that he loves YOU…
Sorry its been rough..I’m keep you in my thoughts and prayers…try and have a great weekend!
Oh, and never forget we are here for you!!!!!
Geeh you are on a lot of pressure. I know its not easy getting things done. Complicated with a lot of stress but i know you can handle that. Talk to him and t your son and see things if it works out. I believed in your will power. Smile:D