Help………
I need to make time for me a priority! I don’t know how to do this. My family has always been my top priority and I squeezed time in for myself when and if I could. This is why I am in the shape I am in. I have proved to myself I can do it, but I thought by now I would be at my goal weight. It has taken me almost 2 years and I am only at my half way point. I have let myself slip too many times. I thought getting this far it would get easier, but it is actually harder. I find myself making more excuses and self sabatoging myself. Hubby just doesn’t get it. I hear I understand, I understand, but he honestly doesn’t understand. He doesn’t get I want healthier. I buy healthy and he buys junk. I want all the junk out of the house, but he keeps on buying chips and cookies. What can I do? I feel like walking out in the kitchen and just tossing the junk in the garbage, but then I think just because I can’t have it why should I deprive him of what he wants. I feel like I am whining, but I just don’t know how to do this any more!
Any suggestions buddies?
I hope everyone is having a great day!
(((HUGS)))
I know how you feel. I don’t have the temptations at home, but I do have them at work. Just yesterday they had a cake to celebrate the June birthdays and someone even said, “No wonder no one around here can ever lose weight.” I went into our break room and the rest of the cake was sitting there and I just ate my Fat Free Yogurt. I think the fact that I didn’t eat the cake, even though it was so readily available. empowered me instead of making me feel like I was missing out.
Also I find that if I read a book about weight loss, exercise, or even just about a strong woman, it keeps me motivated. Hope this helps, and don’t worry, you’ll get there!
I know that feeling! Any time myfiance and I are off together it’s horrible– He takes me to McDonald’s or gets Pizza Hut. He isn’t even trying and he’s losing weight, too!
This has always been my problem.. the junk food just being THERE.. Especially since I still live with my parents and they eat junk constantly. But now that I’ve been on my diet for so long, I’ve noticed it doesn’t taste as good as it once did. Just think about if it really tastes THAT good.
As for wanting it for you… Everyone has to find their own path. And, until you decide you want it for you, it will be harder.. It’s never easy but it does get easier when you admit it’s for yourself.
We’ve been talking about this at WW and the one woman said, think back to what made you want to lose weight. You can SAY it was when you didn’t fit into something, etc. But really, the FEELING that you had that made you want to lose weight. Remind yourself of it. Never forget it.
I think Erika hit the nail on the head! The only thing I could add is this; that feeling of empowerment, that almost euphoric feeling you get when you ‘do the right thing for yourself’ seems to be addictive. And just like any other addiction, the more you are able to feed it, the stronger it gets. Soon it becomes more desired than the ‘old habits’ and you actually start to like your new, healthy life choices. That’s when you know you’ll never go back….. and you can do it. If I can start putting me first, after all these years .. you can do it. It really isn’t selfish, we’ve just made the mistake of thinking we should feel guilty for not putting everyone else’s needs first, and that’s the way we ultimately fail everyone, including ourselves. ooooh, I didn’t mean to get all preachy here…I just feel so passionately about women’s needs to put themselves at the top of the list…. darn, here I go again. What I want to say is…. Be kind to you, you deserve it.
I agree with the other ladies. It is just something you have to decide for yourself, what you need and how you are going to get it. As for myself I have picked out something that I have always wanted to do but never would because of my weight, that is my focus now. I don’t look at it as a chore to lose weight I look at it as getting what I want. When I do get discouraged I just think to myself “you have wanted to go do this your whole life so why stop now.” You can do it Bette Jo.
Yep. It is never easy and everyone has to find there own weight loss tricks. My DH is also a junk food junky and so I keep my healthy snacks right next to his junk. He reaches for a bag of potatoe chips, I grab a bag of fat free popcorn. He makes cheese dip and toastitoes, I have baby carrots dipped in low fat ranch. Good luck there are no easy solutions we just have to keep trying I guess. -Dee
my husband does the same thing. I just have to separate myself from him. it’s hard when he’s not 100% for it…but there’s nothing i can do except be a good example. i just buy my own food and chose not to eat what he’s eating. it’s hard..but VERY rewarding!
Ted tries to do the same thing, and he says it is because he is worried about me. But we know what we need to do. As far as making yourself a priority, what helps me is to remember that my family deserves to have the best me I can give them, and that means taking time for myself! You can do it!
It’s an old favourite but what about sticking a ‘before’ and ‘now’ photo on your fridge - whenever hubby’s food tempts you (and why wouldn’t it, we’re only human) take a look at those photos and ask yourself how you’d prefer to be. Your weight loss journey may be taking longer than you’d hoped but look at how much you’ve accomplished in that time.
I’m rooting for you Bette Jo!
(((Hugs))) from UK