Very trying week……
The new company transition at work is a big pain in the a#s! Hubby still has a job, yea, but what is his job title and what is his job description? He has meetings and phone conferences and it changes every day! I am dealing with me feeling down and my hubby feeling down and not sure he wants to stay with the company and not knowing anything for sure! He comes home and night and just is so quiet and doesn’t want to share his feelings! Last night we got in a big fight over it! I share my feelings with him so easily and it is like pulling teeth to get him to share his! He was just sitting there for like an hour real quiet and not talking last night! All I did was say you are quiet what is wrong! He tells me like I told Ruthie ( a friend and co-worker) today I hate coming to work any more! I hate my job, I am thinking of leaving! I was like wait a minute! You can share this with Ruthie, but you don’t share it with me! He flew off the handle and tells me You know I don’t like talking about work at home! I am like I am your wife, this is something you need to share with me! Share your feelings with me! It affects me too! He just shuts me out! It makes me feel like crap!
I am fed up with all of the transition issues too! We have not had any insurances in forever. The company we worked for didn’t offer insurances. Now with the new company insurances we offered. we have to pay for them, but we decided to get the insurances. The drivers and monitors were offered a lower insurance than the office people so we decided to go with hubbys insurance. We did all the paper work and he put me on the insurances. The insurance was suppose to start on October 1st. Okay so on Monday, the 6th we finally get the insurance card for the medical insurance. We get one card, we go online and register, and I click on who is insured on this policy and it says just my hubby’s name! So of course I am upset! I am so upset that still nobody in the head office knows why or has even found out what is going on! We also signed up for dental insurance and eye care insurance and today is the 9th of October and it was suppose to start on the 1st and no insurance cards have even come for that! I have been having problems with my teeth for about 6 months and I have been hanging in there waiting and I can’t do anything until I have those insurance cards. I can’t even make an appointment until I get them to find out who takes them! Then who knows how long I will have to wait for an appointment! Grrrrrrrrrrr!
I have been sticking to my plan! I am not excercising enough, but my eating has been good!
For awhile I was bouncing out of bed full of energy to start my day! Now I push that snooze and have to drag myself out of bed! I am lucky if I get my chores done around home let alone do anything extra!
I hope everyone is having a great week!
Big HUGS!
Men and their not sharing their feelings…I think that is so typical. But you 100% should know how he is feeling especially with something as major as him being unhappy at his job. I know he probably feels that home is his sanctuary where he does not want to bring all the dirt from the day…my husband feels that way. Ask your hubby if he wants to go for a walk and talk about things or go out to dinner and then talk about it. Don’t know if that will work for you but my husband is more likely to share when he is outside of the house…men are a mystery sometimes. I hope your insurance comes through…maybe you should put a call in to the office manager at his work and see what is going on…it might speed things up. Hang in there!!!
Go read Men are from Mars…. It is very repeatative but oh so true. You will see your husband there. You are probably his closest friend, and still he won’t share, that’s normal.
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I know what you mean I ask my hubby whats wrong and it is almost always a big fat nothing even though I know it is not. I think men want to protect us from all the stress in their lives and they think they are men and should be able to handle it by themselves. I hope that you get all your insurance and job woes worked out. Great job on eating right. Keep up the great work.
Hang in there! And good job on keeping your eating in check with all the stress! That is not easy.
Men don’t like to share feelings with their woman I do think it’s the male ego thing..can’t let emotions show, blah, blah, blah. Like the idea of taking a walk, some place tranquil and peaceful and talking. Just let him know also that you are there if he should ever feel like talking about what’s going on his head.
Good luck with the insurance stuff. I hate dealing with big corporations who don’t care about the little people…only their profit.
I’m sorry you have to go through all this!! Men just tend to shut us out for some reason. They always feel like the can ” fix ” everything on their own. This can really put alot of stress on you and that’s why you are not jumping out of bed right now. I hope things get better for you very soon. Just keep taking care of you!! I hope you have a wonderful day. You deserve it!!
Bette Jo, that is very frustrating ! I am not sure why your hubby feels it necessary to talk to some one else when he should talk to you ! Maybe he’s just so frustrated that he doesn’t really think about his actions and how it will affect you ! Just keep at it honey it will work out! Big hugs, Kimmi
