So many emotions………
and don’t know what to do with them!
I had my doctors appointment the other day. I talked with her about some of the issues I have going on. She put me on medication for depression. I am not one to take drugs, but I know what I have been feeling is not normal so I will try it and see how it goes.
The one thing that I have still loved is my job. I don’t like going into our base, because of issues with some co-workers, but my job itself I have always loved. For those of you who don’t know I am a bus monitor for preschoolers with disabilities. I have four beautiful children who are like additional grandchildren to me. I get along well with there parents and have great communication with them. I have gotten along well with my driver since we began working together over 1 and 1/2 years ago. Well that is until recently. He has always been very nice and he is a very intelligent 65 year old man. We talk about many interesting subjects and I have alwys enjoyed his company. Recently he has made comments that have really hurt my feelings. For example last week, he explained to me my duties as a bus monitor. I was thinking, Duh, I have been doing this job for almost 4 years, I think I know how to do my job. I bit my tongue and didn’t say a word. I have one little girl on the run who has downsyndrome. She is a doll. This is her 3 rd school year and I have been her monitor since she began and before he was my driver. She takes her shoes off almost every day. He complains to the teachers, and tells me not to put them on before they come out so that they have to wait for her, and maybe then they will do something about it. He makes such big deals out of everything now! Then yesterday, I really had to bite my tongue. We were getting another child added and I was given the address by the dispatcher (who happens to be my husband), so I went on yahoo maps and printed out the map from the school to this childs home, to the next child we already had. I also printed out the written directions but made sure there was a map, because I know he likes maps not the written directions which I prefer. We were suppose to take this child home from school in the afternoon. When my driver picked me up, I told him I did a map for him. He pulled over to look at it and told me THIS IS WORTHLESS! I felt like just getting out and walking back home, but I bit my tongue and looked out my window and let the tears flow, I did not want him to see how much he hurt my feelings! When we got to the school, he went up to talk to the driver who had been transporting this child before we got him. He told the other driver an monitor that my husbands directions were GARBAGE and his wifes was from MARS! Well we were at the right spot, but he didn’t think so, so we went and took the other kids home and took this child back and it was the house I thought it was! Long story, and I don’t want to go to work today! If he treats me like shit today, I am calling in sick for the afternoon! I don’t need this along with all the rest of my issues!
Yesterday I tried so hard to stick to my eating, but I went over by 50 calories, but don’t think that is to bad considering my day!
I hope you are all having a great week!
Big HUGS!
Oh bette jo I wonder what happened that made him start acting like a jerk. You said he was so nice to you before that is strange. I would not call off sick I would confront him and tell him that you thought you two had a good working relationship what happened? Tell him what he said about the map being worthless hurt your feelings and ask him why would he say you were from Mars? Maybe if you put him on the spot he will be embarressed by his behavior and give you a much deserved apology and the respect you should have.
I so agree with Jenn. Something must have happened that he changed his tune. If you feel that confronting him will only make it worse, you may try putting in on you and asking him what you did to make him so angry that his whole personality has made such a drastic change in him, because if you did anything, you would love to undo it, because you really felt a nice friendship with him. Its like reverse phycology. Good luck, and don’t let a man rule over you at anytime. Don’t alow him to make you cry. Know that you didn’t do anything wrong, and this is his problem not yours! And don’t make it yours!! Your not the one misbehaving, he is. Its just like the kids who pick on other kids, Just because they are adults, doesn’t make it ok to do. Stay strong and stick to your guns, he is acting like a child, not an adult! REMEMBER THAT!
I am so sorry to hear about the problems with your colleague. It sounds like he is taking out his frustrations on you. I am sorry to hear about it, but remember you are doing the right thing. He is trying to make himself look better to others by belittling you, but they will eventually see through him. He has an attitude problem, not you.
Don’t give him the satisfaction of retaliating, or seeing you cry. Just walk away or ignore him when he gets like this.
Keep doing your job and remember for whom you are doing it. The children, the school and yourself. Not him. It is a very worthwhile job that gives you satisfaction, so don’t let him take that satisfaction away from you.
Hey girl,
These guys have given some sound advice already..I wont repeat it. I just wanted you to know that i’m thinking of you. I sure hope things get better for you. Big HUG..Love Debbie
He sounds like a total jerk. I think someone higher up needs to talk to him, he can’t treat people like that. Don’t ever let anyone get in your way of your job if you love it. It sounds like you have a special heart to help these children, don’t let some jerk treat you bad.
I second the motion to all the comments above. You have support here. So even with your boss being a jerk, know that your Buddy’s are thinking about you and praying for you to have peace again at your job.
ditto all above! hugs to you. hope today is going ok!
Sounds like he is taking out some stuff on you cause he may feel “safe” to do so. Can you talk to him about his attitude change with you? I hope this gets better for you
I had a similar problem (but thank God it wasn’t someone I worked with) and I told my husband all about it and he went and talked to the guy. Basically told him how he had made me feel and posed the question “Would you like me to treat your wife this way?”. I couldn’t believe it but the guy totally changed. He is super nice now I think he was going through something and he just didn’t realize he was hurting my feelings, etc.
I am very emotional, I would’ve never been able to say anything…would your husband talk to him? If not, I would speak to his supervisor. I definitely don’t think you should put up with it!