I may not have a job after today!!
Just what I get for sticking up for myself. I am tired of dealing with my driver. He makes me feel like I don’t do anything right and it I know I am. I have talked about this in previous blogs. It is not just one issue it is numerous issues. My employer doesn’t want to address it and that make me feel bad. I have been offered a different run, and I told them I don’t find that acceptable. I was on this run first I have seniority! There thing is they treat bus drivers like they are God! They tell me I am right, but the driver doesn’t get anything they offer me another run or the solution of the day is give us a bus instead of the caravan we are using now! What is that going to do, put me on the bus with the same driver who I am having issues with. I don’t get it! I go to work every day! I do my job! I do my job well! I have a good relationship with the parents and the children! My driver treats me like I am stupid. Today was just the frosting on the cake. My son’s g/f made me a new CD yesterday of kids songs. I put it in and he didn’t like some of the songs! He tells me some of the songs are okay, but he doesn’t like the singers! I am thinking so fricking what!!! The idea is to make the kids happy and get them to the school safely not to entertain him! So I pull out the CD and put it back in the case and ignore him the rest of the run! We drop off the kids at the school and we go to the service station we stop at in the morning to use the rest room! I call base and tell them I am not taking this crap any more! I get my stuff out of the van and ride back home on the other bus that transports to the same school. I tell them I am not going to work this afternoon! I am not working with that driver! It is not just this one issue it is numerous things leading up to it all combined! It is making me feel worthless and like I don’t matter because I am just the bus monitor! I think my job is very important and I do the best job possible! They tell me I am in the right, but offer me another run or the other option is a bus! I don’t get it! If I am in the right why do I get the shit! It makes no sense! I need my job! I love my kids! I don’t know what to do! It is so much bull! I want to scream, pull out my hair, eat every thing in the house! I won’t, because I won’t cave in to my emotions! I am home this afternoon until they figure out what to do! I know it won’t be my way! I am sick of feeling this way! Am I too emotional? Maybe! I just don’t like feeling like my feelings don’t matter! I suggested they give him a run without a monitor, but that got shot down!
I hate it that lately I have been feeling so negative, but I have to vent! I need to get it out or I will explode!
Hope you are all having a better day than me!
Big HUGS!
Do you have a union representative you could bring this problem to. If you have sinority than it should be a no brainer for them. Hope you work everything out.Take this time to unwind and relax.
(((HUGS)))
Breath…You can’t control his behavior, you can only control yours. Definately contact your union rep, if you have one. If not, file another complaint with Human Resources. Keep your head up.
Girl, my hubby has had this problem too…higher ups just didnt want to listen to what he had to say, that others were ruining things for everyone. Like you, this is dispite his excellent history & work ethic. He ended up losing his job over it. You can only do so much. You know your doing the best you can. I hope that if you end up without a job, that you will end up with a much better situation in the end. I know your stressed girl. Since your home, find a way to relax…music, bath or something. Meanwhile, I’m praying for you girl.
If you wanna talk some more girl, send me a message. I’m here and I really understand what your going through. Like hubby, months and months of this crap takes a real toll on a person. Love ya.
I know, he is just a jerk BUT remember the kids, you are SO great with them. Maybe they can switch you b/c I’d hate for you to not be working with them.
You are wonderful with the kids…you should just worry about you….no you should not be treated unfairly by this driver I agree with the others keep talking to a higher up until you find someone who is willing to do more then just listen.
It’s a shame no one is listening to you. I think often times conflict avoidance makes management not deal effectively with things that need dealt with NOW. I hope you find a solution.
First of all, I just want to say, I think you’re giving this guy too much power over you. When you said that he makes YOU FEEL worthless and that you don’t matter… I mean, he can’t make you feel that way unless you let him. He only has as much control over your feelings, over how your day goes, as you let him have. He’s just some guy that sits beside you while you work, right? You don’t HAVE to give his rude comments any value or any power over you. Many people have to work with people they don’t like. If you aren’t the person doing the hiring, then you really can’t pick and choose who the person next to you will be. All you can choose is how you react to them.
I’m not saying your concerns and frustrations aren’t valid. I just hate to see some jerk who in the grand scheme of things really doesn’t matter one bit ruin your day and your job satisfaction.
Oh man, what a day! I sure hope tomorrow is better and that you get this worked out without losing you job over it all.
He sounds like a super party pooper! I would have left the CD in and said forget him! I am sorry you are having so much trouble with his Butt Head! I hope it can be resolved in a manor that respects you!
Oh hun, don’t let the driver mess up your day. Your kids need you, they love you
The driver is a jerk and I am sure everybody knows it. If he doesn’t like the music, smile at him and turn the volume a little bit higher…. just making sure the kids can all hear the music 
Show him that you do have power and that he won’t get you down. Turn the whole thing around and make him feel like the person he is …. a jerk… 
If he doesn’t like the music then he can go an complain to your boss about it. 
Just remember if you don’t give in and give him what he wants you will make his day hell 
Come on girl you are a strong women, which we know already, now you just have to show that jerk how strong you are 
Show him some Bette Jo Girl Power
((HUGS))
GGrrrrr people like that make me so mad. They must be so unhappy in their lives that they strive to makes others unhappy. My 1st husband was just like that….YUCK…ICKKKKK……so is my brother…..DOUBLE YUCK….ICCKKKKKK.
After reading the comments Bette Jo, I really got to thinking.
You are so strong, I’ve always known this, but you ARE BETTER then that idiot driver.
I know how hard it would be, but maybe you can try this. Be so gosh darn nice….just smile…..and when the music is on, sing along. Respect him (just gotta take a deep breath) but stay positive and happy. It would be interesting to see his reaction
I’ve been in situations like that. When I was a cashier, I’d see a grumpy person come in to my line and I would make sure they left smiling. Sometimes it wasn’t easy, but it worked!!!!
I hope things are good today….keep us updated.
Always here for you girlfriend.
Love ya
Jane
Bette Jo, what a really sucky thing for them to do ! I hope everything works out for the best girl cuz that is complete bull#*$* ! That makes me sick to know you spend a long time on a job and they treat you like that ! Hey, i just thought about this why don’t you become a bus driver ? You already have experience with being on their now all you do is have to learn to navigate the darn thing LOL ! Hugs, kimmi