Hopped back on for another short ride! What can I say?
Hopped back on for another short ride! What can I say?
Here it is almost 3 years on this journey and I still can’t control emotional eating at times.
My family is my life! In the past week I have had my heart broken twice.
Thursday my middle son Josh moved to Virginia. I know this is probably a great opportunity for him; it is just the mother in me not wanting to lose him. He is 25 years old and it is time for him to grow up and make some changes in his life.
Then my heart felt like it was ripped right out of my chest and stomped on last night! My youngest, my baby, Ethan (he will always be my baby) went to jail, it was nothing major, he violated probation. The court gave him 90 days of which if he behaves he will serve 60. I tried so hard to instill my values in my son’s! They just didn’t get it! I am hoping while he is there, he will get his GED. He says he will, so maybe something good can come of it! Maybe this will give him some thinking time. He needs to grow up too. He needs to realize he has to get a job and become a man. He is going to be a daddy in December!
Today is going to be a ME day!! I was suppose to work today, but a couple hours of work isn’t worth losing a whole day of unemployment so they are giving it to someone else.
Today I will!
Finish my contract and post it!
Journal my food and post it!
Exercise and post it!
I did finish my contract and here it is!
6/30/2009 I Bette Jo Payne will continue this journey for better health and weight loss. 1. I will work on changing the things I can change. I will not allow the things I cannot change to keep me from my destination.2. When my husband is having a stressful day at work and comes home in a bad mood, I will not allow his mood to cause me to stray from journey.3. I will continue to use my food journal every day and post it. Good or Bad!4. I will start an exercise journal. I will exercise at least 5 days a week!5. I will find more time for myself. I will learn to say “NO” to things I really don’t want to do, but feel are expected of me to do.6. I will offer support, motivation and inspiration to my friends here on Buddyslim.7. I will continue my quest to try to get my husband to become healthier, but I will not push it. If he decides he wants my help I will give it to him, but if he doesn’t want it, I will back off. I will focus on my own goals of better health and weight loss and hope it inspires him to do the same! Bette Jo Payne Hope you are all having a great week!!
Big HUGS!
Great contract Bette,
Sorry about sons. Well youngest one anyway. You know, dont feel bad about your son making mistakes - some of the nicest most well rounded people in my life have had “colourful” pasts. And as they say “A man who makes no mistakes doesn’t usually make anything!”
Shelli x
(((BETTE JO))) sorry you go thru such tough times. But remember, everything happens always for a good reason. Going to jail might just what Ethan needs to wake him up and he finally learns what is important in life. Hang in there hun, everything will work out just fine
Keep it up, buckle up and enjoy the ride 
Love your new attitude today
((HUGS))
(((Bette Jo))) Wow…. sorry to hear about your sons, But maybe this was just the kick in the bum that your youngest needed to get himself back on track. I hope today looks a little bit brighter for you.
It is hard when someone you love is in jail. I am sorry. Don’t feel responsible for someone else’s choices, though. You seem to realize that you need to take care of you now, and with that, to let go of other people’s decisions and the outcomes of those choices. It is easier said than done, but you are smart to decide not to let things you can’t control keep you from taking care of your own goals.
Hey girl,
Sorry about your son moving away. I got a touch of that when my daughter moved to NM. It is really sad, but, like you said…maybe it will be good for him.
Now, as for jail and your other son. Girl, I’ve been in the same boat though my son has managed to stay out, barely. Your right, we do try really hard to instill our values but some kids dont choose the right path. I keep expecting my son to end up there cause of his behaviors. Anyway, all you can do is hope that he will learn a little something while he’s there. Remember momma, you did your job, you raised him right. Dont blame yourself ok.
Great contract girl.
Sending hugs and love your way…you take care ok.
Bette Jo, you know you and I have that same problem of battling that darn emotional eating ! let’s fight it together and try to both figure out why we allow others to get under our skin and then we take it out on food !I told you that I am making a pact with you to bring my sorry butt on here once a day and I have kept to it ! So we can do this girl ! Hang in there about the kids we can only do so much and it’s up to them to do the rest whether we like it or not ! Hugs, Kimmi