Hanging on!
Sitting here this morning doing some thinking! Wondering why I am always HANGING ON! I hang to things both physically and emotionally! I have to much junk that is cluttering up my life! It is hard for me to throw anything away and give up on anything! Sometimes this is a good thing! It is a good thing that I hang on to BS and all of my good buddies (FRIENDS) here at BS. It is a good thing that I hang on to getting losing weight and getting healthier! It is a bad thing that hang onto things that need to just be gone! I hang onto emotional issues that need to just be tossed out with the trash! I need to learn how to let it go! My hubby is always telling me LET IT GO! I don’t know how! I have to much physical junk too! It clutters up my closets, my desk, everything! Don’t get me wrong, my house is not like those on TV with people that hoard things, but it cluttered. I get this from my mother! I am always thinking if I throw this away I will need it next week! I hold onto useless things because it holds an emotional attatchment. My dad has been gone 11 years and I won’t throw away a thing he gave me! It is like if I don’t get rid of it, I won’t lose my memories! I hold on to hurt and pain people have caused me! I want to let it go, but then it makes me feel vulnerable! I feel like I have to start letting some of the physical and emotional baggage I have lying around to move on with my life and my journey! Just don’t really know how to do it!
There is one thing I really have to do today!
I am letting go of my FAB team! I have worked hard at this team and so few members come anymore! It served it’s purpose! I met many wonderful buddies and I hang onto that as I say Good-bye to this team and move on!
I am back on track and I plan on staying that way!!
Have an awesome weekend my FRIENDS!
Biggest HUGS Ever!!
I remember seeing something that caught my eye a few years ago. It said “How well did you live? How well did you love? How well did you learn to let go?” I remember being completely taken aback after reading that. The first two questions I thought were the obvious ones when you are trying to evaluate the path you’ve taken in life. But it surprised me to see the last one paired with the other two. I had never given learning to let go as much importance as the other two, and after reading that I realized that it IS just as important and I have been working on that ever since.
Believe me, I had a white knuckle grip that I have very VERY gradually been loosening up on. Even the slightest change relieves some of the pressure on your heart. I hope you are able to take small steps toward your goal, because it is a worthwhile journey to make.
I don’t know how to let go of some things emotionally. Material wise, no issues…I’ll get rid of everything! My family hates that about me! Good luck to you!
Emotional issues are hard to let go of,but I think talking it out helps a great deal. Time heals as well. Dont beat yourself up over things.
My hubby is what I call a pack rat..he likes to keep everything too. I am that way about a loved ones things..stuff they gave me or things I received after that passed. i think thats normal
((((((((((Bette Jo)))))))))) I am the same way with things, I have a whole closet full of dad’s clothes to get rid of still. This is my goal for my vacation, to get rid of unecessary stuff. But there ARE things I will hold onto, just because they mean so much to me.
OMG I do this too…like I keep napkins and when I clean my room I find all of this stuff and it is basically junk, I will never use it. But I don’t get rid of it because of sentimental value!
You know when you go to Mcdonalds and get a happy meal they have it in a bag that is usually covered with cute childhood characters? I have this one bag that is in a box under my bed…I won’t get rid of it because my grandmother gave me it. Isn’t that nuts?
How do we stop keeping these things?
Girl,
you are actually more vunerable when you hang on to those hurts. Because when something else happens it just piles right on top of the rest of the load, if that makes sense. When you come to terms with something in your head and in your heart…then your giving your heart a chance to be more free then it ever has. Its not easy. I’m not even saying to forget or forgive. Just make more peace in your own heart. Cause like it or not, whats done is done and cant be undone once that moment is past. So, its either hold on to it and drag it with you every where you go–or release it (with time).
Anyway, I hope this helps in some way. Sending hugs to ya friend.
Bette jo, i think I am the same way ! letting go is not my specialty ! I personally know that you tried to keep Fab together as long as you could and thank you for the chance to be known as a team member ! I am also proud to call you my friend ! love ya, Kimmi
Start letting go of some of the tangible things and it’ll aide you in letting go of the mental things. I challenged all the wildcats before to get rid of some of our bigger clothes. Its a lot harder than you think but you’ll feel good. (that’s if you havent done this already)